Love in Action


I can’t believe how much has changed in one year.  If last December someone had told me that I would be married by the end of 2016, I wouldn’t have believed them.  I don’t usually like change but this time, I do 🙂

I’ve started reading through “The Love Dare.”  So far there have been a few different things that have really stuck out to me.

The first day was on patience.  The chapter reminds: “Patience helps you give your spouse permission to be human.  It understands that everyone fails.”  That doesn’t just apply to marriage.  It applies to every relationship that we experience in life.  No one is perfect.  Everyone will let us down at some point or another.  And we will end up doing the same to those around us.  It’s that realization that helps us pour our patience not only to our spouse but also to anyone we come in contact with.

The second day was on kindness.  “If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance.  Patience avoids a problem; kindness creates a blessing.”  Again this applies to any relationship in our life.

Today was on thoughtfulness.  “If you don’t learn to be thoughtful, you end up regretting missed opportunities to demonstrate love.”  I’d never thought about it that way before.  Usually thoughtlessness is accompanied by selfishness.  Most times the reason you aren’t thinking about what someone else needs/wants is because you’re too focused on yourself and your own desires.

1 Thessalonians 5:15b says, “Always seek after that which is good for one another.”  Now that’s true love.

At the End of the Day

I’m engaged.  I still can’t wrap my mind around that.

Wedding planning sometimes gets kind of…stressful…  There are a lot of decisions for me to make and some days it’s hard to stay calm and easygoing.  But I’ve been trying to remind myself that at the end of the day–no matter how the ceremony or reception unfold–I will be married to my best friend and the love of my life.  So if the bridesmaid dresses are the wrong shade or the pictures don’t turn out quite like I hoped…if it rains or the flower girl won’t walk down the aisle like she’s supposed to…if it’s too cold or one of the decorations breaks…nothing is going to change the fact that at the end of the day we’ll be married.

I’m trusting that it will be beautiful no matter how everything turns out.  It’s just one day of the many thousands that I hope we have together.  It doesn’t matter if the wedding is not quite perfect or not exactly how I’d dreamed it to be.  Because it’s just the beginning of our life together.  And that part–spending the rest of my life with him– is what I’m most excited about.

Under Great Pressure


This morning, I read 2 Corinthians 1:1-11.  Verses 8b-9 especially stuck out to me: “We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired of life itself.  Indeed, we felt we had received the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead.”  Paul is speaking here of troubles he faced with fellow believers in Asia.  These pressures proved to themselves and those around them that in and of themselves they were weak and incapable.  They were in need of God and His power.

These verses remind me of 2 Corinthians 12:9 which says: “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”  Christ is glorified through our weaknesses because then He is able to step in and show Himself strong.  After all, 1 Corinthians 1:25 reminds us that the “weakness of God is stronger than human strength.”

2 Corinthians 4:7-9 reminds us: “But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us.  We are hard pressed on every side,but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.”  I’ve heard a quote in reference to this verse that goes: “Blessed are the cracked for they shall let in the light.”  Basically, the more broken we are–the more humbled we are by realizing our own inadequacies– the more of Jesus’ light will shine through us.  Sometimes, the “great pressure” that Paul refers to in 2 Corinthians 1:8 is what God uses to break us so that He can shine more brightly.

2 Corinthians 12:10 goes on to say: “That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”  I don’t know about you but I don’t tend to delight in my weaknesses or failures.  I don’t like to admit that I can’t do something.  This happened to me today actually.  For some reason, I thought it was humanly possible to work almost 30 hours a week, take 12 credit hours, and CLEP out on Biology 1408 and 1409.  It took a few nights with practically no sleep for me to realize that I had to drop Calculus.  I’ve never dropped a class before, but I realized that my stubbornness in wanting to keep all my classes was mostly a pride issue.  I didn’t want to admit that I couldn’t do it all.  That I’m not superhuman.  These verses in 2 Corinthians reminded me that “when I am weak, then I am strong.”  My strength doesn’t come from my abilities but from Christ.  If I was able to do everything, if I had no weaknesses, if I never failed at anything, I think I would forget that I need God.

Perfect Peace


College starts back up for me in 5 days.  And I’m starting to get a little anxious.  Will I be able to stay on top of the homework for four classes while working close to 30 hours a week?  Will I be able to maintain my 4.0 GPA?  Will my plan of when I’m going to finish school and which classes I’ll take each semester get messed up because I end up having to drop a class?

It’s moments like these when I start feeling myself getting stressed out that I read Philippians 4:6-7: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Matthew Henry says, ” There is a care of diligence which is our duty, and consists in a wise forecast and due concern; but there is a care of diffidence and distrust which is our sin and folly, and which only perplexes and distracts the mind.”  It would be foolish not to be cautious or safe in our day to day life but when that care turns into anxiety, it becomes sin.  According to Henry, it “distracts the mind” which is so true.  When I’m worrying, I’m not praying.  I’m not thinking about God.  I’m thinking about myself.  What might go wrong.

Anxiety is sin.  I often don’t think about that.  I get stressed out about life and don’t even realize I’m stressed until I’m lying in bed at 2 in the morning wide awake and worrying.  Anxiety is a lack of trust in God.  We only begin worrying about school or finances or grades or health problems when we stop trusting that God has it all under control.

Isaiah 26:3 says, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”  My peace won’t come from my grades or my savings account, from work or school.  My peace won’t even come from my relationships.  

Matthew Henry goes on to say: “The peace of God [is] the comfortable sense of our reconciliation to God and interest in his favour, and the hope of the heavenly blessedness, and enjoyment of God hereafter.”  Peace comes from God.  It’s not something that can be fully experienced without Him.  As Jesus says in John 14:27, He gives a peace unlike what the world gives.  Because what the world gives isn’t true peace.  It won’t last.

But God’s peace will.  In the midst of homework and tests and even finals.  God’s peace will last if I fail a test or lower my GPA.  God’s peace will last when my textbooks end up being 5x more expensive than I expected.  God’s peace will last when one of my professors won’t email me back about an assignment question.  His peace isn’t dependent on my circumstances.



Full Surrender

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In Luke 9, we read of when Jesus sends out the twelve disciples.  Verses 1-3 say: “When Jesus had called the Twelve together, he gave them power and authority to drive out all demons and to cure diseases,  and he sent them out to proclaim the kingdom of God and to heal the sick.  He told them: ‘Take nothing for the journey—no staff, no bag, no bread, no money, no extra shirt.'”  That last sentence may seem like a strange order.  Francis Chan explains that “Jesus was forcing His disciples to trust Him.  God would have to come through for them because they had nothing else to fall back on.”

When life’s easy, we often tend to forget how much we need God.  It’s in the moments that we have nothing, that it feels everything has been stripped out of our hands, when we realize how much we need Him.

Francis Chan says, “When Christ says to count the cost of following Him, it means we must surrender everything.  It means being willing to go without an extra tunic or a place to sleep at night, and sometimes without knowing where we are going.”  If we knew all the details, if we knew where God was sending us, if we knew exactly when and how He would provide for us, then what would be the purpose of trust?  It’s in the not knowing that we must surrender our plans so that we can trust His.

Our Greatest Need

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1 John 2:25 says, “This is what he promised us—eternal life.”  We weren’t promised an easy life or fulfilled desires.  We weren’t promised success financially or a prestigious reputation.  We weren’t promised an exemption from trials.  We weren’t promised that life would always go the way we want or that all our dreams will come true.  But we were promised an eternity in heaven with Christ.

Just the thought of this should bring us great joy.  1 Peter 1: 8-9 says, “Though you have not seen him, you love him; and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy, for you are receiving the end result of your faith, the salvation of your souls.”  

C.J. Mahaney says, “Your greatest need is to be delivered from the wrath of God – and that has already been accomplished for you through the death and resurrection of Christ.”  Our greatest need was to be saved from the punishment we deserve for sin.  We deserved to die.  We weren’t fit to ever be united with God.  We weren’t worthy of heaven.  But then God provided a way for us by sending His son.  We too often forget this incredible mercy and grace and instead think of what our life seems to lack.  But truly, if we have Christ, we lack nothing.  We have everything we need.

First Fruits or Leftovers?

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I’m reading an amazing book right now called “Crazy Love” by Francis Chan.  I usually only have time to read a couple of pages before I have to get ready for work.  Yesterday, the section I read was entitled “Offering Leftovers.”

Malachi 1:8 says, “When you offer blind animals for sacrifice, is that not wrong? When you sacrifice lame or diseased animals, is that not wrong? Try offering them to your governor! Would he be pleased with you? Would he accept you?” says the Lord Almighty.”  Francis Chan comments on this verse: “they assumed God was pleased because they sacrificed something [but] leftovers are not merely inadequate…they’re evil.  Let’s stop calling it ‘a busy schedule’ or ‘bills’ or ‘forgetfulness.’ It’s evil.”  When I read Malachi 1:8, I focused on the sentence: “try offering them to your governor!”  We know to offer our best to our rulers.  We know to show our best side to those we respect.  We would never give a less than perfect gift to someone like a king.  But we would to God?

Malachi 1:10 goes on to say: “‘Oh, that one of you would shut the temple doors, so that you would not light useless fires on my altar! I am not pleased with you,’ says the Lord Almighty, ‘and I will accept no offering from your hands.'”  Francis Chan explains that God was saying “no worship is better than apathetic worship.”  Chan compares this to token praise.  None of us like to receive compliments out of guilt or obligation.  Why would we think that these should be our motivations to worship God?

Genesis 4:2b-5 says, “Now Abel kept flocks, and Cain worked the soil.  In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the Lord.  And Abel also brought an offering—fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock. The Lord looked with favor on Abel and his offering, but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favor. So Cain was very angry, and his face was downcast.”  Hebrews 11:4 tells us why God looked with favor on Abel’s offering and not Cain’s: “By faith Abel brought God a better offering than Cain did. By faith he was commended as righteous, when God spoke well of his offerings…”  Abel didn’t bring leftovers.  Abel brought the best.  What are we bringing God?  Are we bringing halfhearted worship?  Five minutes of prayer?  Are we making excuses for why we didn’t have time to seek His face?  

Is Love an Action or Emotion?


I’ve heard both sides of this argument.  Some say that love is a feeling that is proved through our actions.  Others say that love can’t be an emotion because God cannot command emotions, so love must be an action that may result in feelings.  I think that love is both.

Romans 5: 5,8 says, “And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us … God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”  John Piper’s explains that, as we see in verse 5, love of God is experienced in the heart.  And as we see in verse 8, the love of God is demonstrated in history.  This would mean that there is head knowledge involved AND also affection of the heart.  

If we look at 1 Corinthians 13:1-7, we see both aspects of love: “If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.  If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.  If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.  Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”  We see in verses 4-7 that love is not just a feeling.  God commands us to love others and he specifically shows us what that looks like.  Therefore we can see that love is most definitely an action.  However, if we also look at verses 1-3, we can see that love can’t be only an action.  Speaking in tongues, prophesying, giving to the poor, suffering for Jesus’ name, and trusting in God are all actions, but Paul says you can do all these things without love.  

Trials and Troubles


Job 2:10b says, “Shall we accept good from God and not trouble?”  That’s a good question.  But one I hesitate to answer.  Not because I don’t know the answer but because of the hard truth that this verse conveys.  The good is obviously preferred.  But the trouble?  That’s what changes, refines, and pushes us to God according to 1 Peter 1:6-7: “In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.” God designed distress and hardships to strengthen the sincerity of our faith just as fire refines gold so that we can glorify Him fully.

John Piper puts it this way: “When gold is melted in the fire the impurities float to the top and can be removed. When the refining fire is over, the gold is even more valuable. So it is with your faith in God. You have faith. You trust his promises. But there are impurities in it. There are elements of murmuring and pessimism (I speak from painful experience). And there are tendencies to trust money and position and popularity alongside God—dirt mingled with the gold of faith. These impurities in our faith hinder our fullest experience of the goodness and greatness of God. So God designs to refine our faith with the fires of trial and distress. His aim is that our faith be more pure and more genuine. That is, that it be more utterly dependent on him and not on things and other persons for our joy.”

Our Heavenly Father, just as our earthly parents, does what He does for our best good, even when we fall flat on our face. It’s not that God forgot about us and for a moment let go of our hand. It’s more like what happens when a child is learning how to walk. If the parents never let go of the tiny chubby hands, never let the tot fall and get back up, the child will never learn how to walk. Through our tumblings, we grow stronger, we often learn more during the hard times.

So often, when we go through hardship, we feel like God has left us. We forget that “. . .we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory” (Romans 8:17). We seem to think that we are entitled to the good times but that we don’t deserve the bad times. Job reminds us not to just hold onto God in the good times but to also hold onto Him in the tough times of life when he says: “The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised” (Job 1:21).

You may be thinking that it’s too hard, that you shouldn’t be expected to find joy in sorrow, that Job cannot possibly understand this trial in your life. But what we seem to momentarily overlook is that Job 1:21 quotes the words of Job immediately following the death of all ten of his children and the complete annihilation of his livelihood. He had so much and one moment later had nothing. And in Job 2:10 (quoted above), while still mourning the death of his children and the ruin of his herd, Job is inflicted with painful sores; yet he still keeps his eyes on God. We need to have the faith of Job. We need to realize that we cannot ultimately understand the entirety of God’s plan.

In John 11, we read the story of a man named Lazarus. Lazarus was sick and his sisters sent a message to Jesus. Jesus, however, knew that through Lazarus’ death God would be even further glorified. Neither Lazarus’ sisters nor the disciples understood why Jesus waited two days before he went to Lazarus; they didn’t understand that it was God’s Will for Lazarus to die. Mary and Martha, Lazarus’ sisters, felt that if Jesus had come sooner, their brother might have been healed. They forgot that they were speaking to the One who in everything knows what is best. They didn’t understand His ways because they couldn’t see the end result, what God was planning, or what He had in store.

John 11:38-44 finishes the story for us: “Jesus, once more deeply moved, came to the tomb. It was a cave with a stone laid across the entrance. ‘Take away the stone,’ he said. ‘But, Lord,’ said Martha, the sister of the dead man, ’by this time there is a bad odor, for he has been there four days.’ Then Jesus said, ‘Did I not tell you that if you believe, you will see the glory of God?’ So they took away the stone. Then Jesus looked up and said, ‘Father, I thank you that you have heard me. I knew that you always hear me, but I said this for the benefit of the people standing here, that they may believe that you sent me.’ When He had said this, Jesus called in a loud voice, ‘Lazarus, come out!’ The dead man came out, his hands and feet wrapped with strips of linen, and a cloth around his face.”

I’m sure Mary and Martha never would’ve guessed what Jesus had in mind. If Jesus had come when they sent a message to Him, if He had healed Lazarus while he was sick, God would not have received the glory that resulted from Lazarus’ resurrection.

We should not feel that it is necessary to completely comprehend why we are currently in this season of life. Instead, we should continue forward with the realization that God has put us in exactly the place where we can give Him the most glory. Now, it is our choice: will we glorify Him by the way we live—no matter what is going on in our life? He may be using a hard time to grow and change us or to be more fully glorified.

Real Love

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My last post talked about my experience with my camper at Joni and Friends this summer. I have a lot of stories from that week at camp.  One of my favorite stories didn’t actually involve my camper.  The last night at camp, we had a talent show.  The campers are able to go up on stage if they want to and do anything whether it’s playing an instrument, dancing, singing, or magic tricks.  I heard one parent say how much she loved her daughter being able to get up there and perform.  It was something she couldn’t do anywhere else.  But here at camp, she’d get cheers and a standing ovation.  My favorite act of the night was when one couple came up on stage to dance to “Thinking out Loud” by Ed Sheeran.

The opening lines: “When your legs don’t work like they used to before and I can’t sweep you off of your feet…” summed up the whole dance because both of them were in wheelchairs.  As they circled each other in their wheelchairs, I couldn’t help but think that was true love.  They’d never be able to go on a hike together, but he could wheel up next to her and hold her hand.  They might not be able to experience a lot of things but they didn’t care because they were together.  It was an amazing opportunity to be able to watch their special dance.

“Real love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person” (Seth Smith).  We are all flawed in some way or another.  None of us are perfect.  We can’t go into a marriage or a relationship and expect smooth sailing all the time.  There will be problems, you will get hurt but love forgives and works through the problems.  Love gives you strength when the going gets tough whether that looks like financial struggles, a debilitating disease, or a physical handicap.  I want to love like that.