Faithfulness Before Marriage

     In Matthew 19:6, Jesus reminds us of the sanctity of marriage when He says, “They are no longer two, but one flesh.  Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”  Marriage is a beautiful commitment to remain faithful to your spouse.
     However, I think we often forget that faithfulness to our spouse begins long before the wedding.  Proverbs 3:3 says: “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.” Faithfulness isn’t something that begins after you’re married. Faithfulness begins NOW.
     Even in the little things, we can prove by our actions and attitude a lifestyle of faithfulness. Everyone around us should know by how we live that we are not casually giving ourselves away but instead purposely saving ourselves for our future spouse.  Anything you would be ashamed to do if your future spouse were around, you shouldn’t be doing. If we are praying and hoping that our spouses will maintain lifestyles of purity and faithfulness, then shouldn’t we all be striving to give our spouses the same?  
     Whether you are currently single or in a relationship, ask yourself if you would be embarrassed for your future spouse to see the way you interact with others.  Even when you’re in a relationship, you need to keep in mind that you may not end up marrying this person.  

     Luke 16:10 says, “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.” For a relationship to thrive, trust must be at the core. What better way to show that we can be trusted than by living a life of faithfulness even before marriage?


The Heart of Fellowship


We often pray before church get-togethers or group gatherings that God would bless our time of fellowship.  But I think that often we use the word “fellowship” when it’s anything but.  Fellowship often involves casual conversation over coffee, not deep or meaningful spiritual conversations.

The Greek word koinōnia is where we get our English word “fellowship.”  It comes from a root word that means “partnership”, and suggests a close relationship among believers–an extension of the love that exists between God and His people.

1 Corinthians 14:26 says, “What then, brothers? When you come together, each one has a hymn, a lesson, a revelation, a tongue, or an interpretation. Let all things be done for building up.”

True Christ-centered fellowship involves mutual edification, sharing things that have drawn us closer to Christ, encouraging each other, praying for each other, sharing our needs and our struggles and asking for accountability.  It involves building each other up and pointing each other towards Christ.