For years, I’ve been the girl who was frustrated by everyone’s good intentions when it came to my singleness. “You’re still young; don’t rush it” or “It’ll happen when the time is right” or “Trust God, He’s got it all under control.” I thought that these people just didn’t remember what it was like to be single. They were in a great relationship or were happily married and it’d been too long since they’d be alone. They couldn’t relate. They didn’t understand.
But I think I get it now. I’ve been in a relationship for a little over two months now and if I had the chance, I think I’d offer a lot of the same advice that I used to detest. I really was too young and the timing wasn’t right. I definitely wasn’t ready to be in a relationship two years ago, let alone six months ago. I’ve changed and matured so much that some days I feel like such a different person than when I moved here from New York two and a half years ago.
I am so happy that God is in control and not me. When I found out two and a half years ago that we were moving from our little country house in New York to a suburb of Dallas, I was mad at my parents. I didn’t want to move. I had a small circle of close friends. I was happy. When we finally got to Texas, I knew that as soon as I was financially able to take care of myself, I was going to move back to New York. But, now, I can see a little bit more of that big picture that everyone is always talking about. If I’d stayed in New York or if I’d moved back like I wanted to, not only would I not have made some of the amazing friends that I have today but I would not be in this wonderful relationship with a great guy.
It may not feel like it but I can honestly say that there’s a reason for waiting. If it’s not you that God’s preparing, maybe it’s the guy that God’s working on. Keep trusting.